We have many sweeteners nowadays. We have Splenda and NutraSweet and Sweet’N Low, not to mention old fashioned Sugar. They help to make our food (or drink) more appetizing. Did you know that God has gives us a sweetener for our marriages. It is called “mercy.” Dave Harvey writes it better than I can.
Do you know God as a God of mercy? Do you see your spouse as God sees him or her–through eyes of mercy?
If your answer to either question is no, it is unlikely that your marriage is sweet. Mercy sweetens marriage. Where it is absent, two people flog one another over everything from failure to fix the faucet to phone bills. But where it is present, marriage grows sweeter and more delightful, even in the face of challenges, setbacks, and the persistent effects of our remaining sin. (Dave Harvey, When Sinners Say I Do [Wapwollopen, PA: Shepherd Press, 80]).